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Do YOUR labels define you?

I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.

Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things?  So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done.  Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.

If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.

Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.

Have a great day

Jane

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What Have You Done For You Lately?

Have you ever been so focused on helping someone else or so focused on work that you’ve lost yourself and not even realised, I’m going to go as far as saying maybe you’ve even put your life on hold. Then one day that person is where they’ve been working towards or the next project at work comes along and suddenly, BANG the self-realisation of ‘what the hell have I been doing for me’ kicks in and the answer is, nothing, I’ve done nothing for myself. Spending your energy on someone or on work, it’s an easy thing to do.

It’s easy to fall into bad sleep patterns, eat unhealthy, remove yourself from any form of exercise, it’s almost self sabotage, ‘it’s not about me it’s about them or it’s about work, ‘must do a great job’.  Well actually if you continue you that way, you won’t be any good to yourself, them or work.

So it’s time to put yourself first, you may ask yourself ‘is this ok”, ‘can I do this’, they’re completely natural questions and the answer to both of them is ‘yes it is ok’ and ‘yes you can do it’.

So in the words of Janet Jackson, ask yourself ‘What have you done for me lately?” and if the answer is not much, allow yourself a fresh start by giving yourself some new found self-love and self-respect, believe me, you deserve it.

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Current Self, Future Self

Yesterday at the gym I noticed whom I call my squat partner, we’ve helped each other out when the other was flagging a few times. I asked how she was doing and she replied, “I’ve got 40 to go but I’m knackered”, I said “ok I’ll join you so we can both blitz it”.

Mid squat she told me her current self was fighting her future self; I liked the sound of this so I asked her what she meant. Her current self was saying “you’ve done enough, you don’t need to do another 40, go home”, however her future self was saying “you know you’re going to feel better for doing the extra 40 and you’re going to be pissed with yourself if you don’t.” I like this.

So instead of having that voice of doubt that pipes up every so often questioning if you have got what it takes to do what you want to do and maybe stopping you from going ahead. How about listening to your future self and hearing “I bet you’re glad you done that”.

Happy Sunday

J

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What If It’s Amazing

Whether it’s starting something new, maybe your dream project, a career change, a new relationship or if it comes to saying goodbye to something or someone that isn’t working for us anymore, a lot of the time the ‘What Ifs’ sneak in.

Now, I’m sure you don’t need me to remind you that ‘What Ifs’ can be an absolute pain in the arse, they waste precious time that we cannot recuperate and they delay great results and experiences from happening.

You yourself know when something needs to change, and you know in the long run that change will make you happier.  Yet no matter how happy you know making that change will make you, the ‘What Ifs’ can still sneak in.

What if it doesn’t work out, what if I am meant to be with them, what if my project wont be successful, what if, what if, what if.  Oh look, it’s a year down the line and I’m miserable because I’m still in the same situation and haven’t gone after what I really want or changed what isn’t working for me.

Now what would happen if you turned that ‘What If’ into a ‘What If It’s Amazing’ and you keep on saying that. ‘What If It’s Amazing’, ‘What If It’s Amazing’, ‘What If It’s Amazing’, then ‘It’s going to be Amazing’, It’s going to be Amazing.  Get that positive energy flowing and commit to making it happen.

You know deep down that it’s the right decision, it’s just that F.E.A.R comes in to play, remember what F.E.A.R stands for, False Expectations Appearing Real.  Meaning, we’re worrying about something that hasn’t even happened yet and something that probably won’t happen either.

The other day I was speaking to one of my best friends who in the past has battled with ‘What Ifs’  and she said this to me “I remind myself that this is just my own imagination, so why not imagine the best if I am choosing to imagine at all”.  I love this!

So the next time you have a doubt ask yourself ‘What If It’s Amazing?’

XxJ

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