I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.
Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things? So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done. Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.
If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.
Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.
Have a great day
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Have you ever been so focused on helping someone else or so focused on work that you’ve lost yourself and not even realised, I’m going to go as far as saying maybe you’ve even put your life on hold. Then one day that person is where they’ve been working towards or the next project at work comes along and suddenly, BANG the self-realisation of ‘what the hell have I been doing for me’ kicks in and the answer is, nothing, I’ve done nothing for myself. Spending your energy on someone or on work, it’s an easy thing to do.
It’s easy to fall into bad sleep patterns, eat unhealthy, remove yourself from any form of exercise, it’s almost self sabotage, ‘it’s not about me it’s about them or it’s about work, ‘must do a great job’. Well actually if you continue you that way, you won’t be any good to yourself, them or work.
So it’s time to put yourself first, you may ask yourself ‘is this ok”, ‘can I do this’, they’re completely natural questions and the answer to both of them is ‘yes it is ok’ and ‘yes you can do it’.
So in the words of Janet Jackson, ask yourself ‘What have you done for me lately?” and if the answer is not much, allow yourself a fresh start by giving yourself some new found self-love and self-respect, believe me, you deserve it.
Now I’m not talking about the type of change you get from a £20 note, I’m talking about the type of change that when hearing the word change, can fill us with fear. Most of the time it fills us with fear because it means entering the unknown. Often It results in thoughts like, I’m not ready, what if…, and then you talk yourself into the idea that your situation is actually not that bad, when actually it is, you’ve become uncomfortably comfortable with the situation whether it be a relationship, job, physical or maybe mental state. We know it’s not right for us, that it’s not serving us any good but we can be scared to act on it because we don’t know what the unknown holds for us. Fear not, if you look up these two words in the dictionary, they have beautiful meanings:
Change = to transform or convert (usually followed by into)
Unknown = not discovered, explored, identified, or ascertained
‘To Transform’ and ‘not discovered’ bring a whole new feeling to the words change and unknown; it brings positivity and excitement, of which both you could have in your life and I’m sure you deserve. Whether it’s deep down or just under the surface you know what needs to transform, how about this week taking the first step to that new discovery. If replacing a word can make a new situation sound exciting imagine how amazing addressing your situation will feel. Have an amazing transformational week Jx
Today, be happy with what you do, be kind to yourself.
That is all.
Last Saturday I woke up and thought of the jobs that needed doing and in the same thought I decided I wasn’t going to do them that day. I was having a day off and I was going to have a lovely day with my hubby and our beautiful daughter. So that’s exactly what we did and you know what, it was amazing.
The hoover police didn’t come around, the shops didn’t run out of food and my practice didn’t collapse. However what did happen was we had a day that I’m still smiling about a week later.
Enjoy your weekend and do something for you, f*&% doing ‘The Stuff’ that ‘needs’ doing for one day.