I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.
Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things? So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done. Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.
If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.
Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.
Have a great day
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Are you so focused on perfecting your goals, that you’re not achieving them?
It’s not quite right, I need to wait for one more piece of equipment or one more meeting or I need to do one more course. Do you really, really need to?
Ask yourself, what would happen if I don’t wait for one more thing and I just do it anyway.
A little less self-talk, a little more action please
Have you ever been so focused on helping someone else or so focused on work that you’ve lost yourself and not even realised, I’m going to go as far as saying maybe you’ve even put your life on hold. Then one day that person is where they’ve been working towards or the next project at work comes along and suddenly, BANG the self-realisation of ‘what the hell have I been doing for me’ kicks in and the answer is, nothing, I’ve done nothing for myself. Spending your energy on someone or on work, it’s an easy thing to do.
It’s easy to fall into bad sleep patterns, eat unhealthy, remove yourself from any form of exercise, it’s almost self sabotage, ‘it’s not about me it’s about them or it’s about work, ‘must do a great job’. Well actually if you continue you that way, you won’t be any good to yourself, them or work.
So it’s time to put yourself first, you may ask yourself ‘is this ok”, ‘can I do this’, they’re completely natural questions and the answer to both of them is ‘yes it is ok’ and ‘yes you can do it’.
So in the words of Janet Jackson, ask yourself ‘What have you done for me lately?” and if the answer is not much, allow yourself a fresh start by giving yourself some new found self-love and self-respect, believe me, you deserve it.
We can often put things on hold because of someone else, unknown to ourselves we can get tangled up in a web of ‘well if they change things would be better’, ‘I’d do more’, you know the stuff you’ve really been wanting to do for ages, it’s them that holds you back, damn them when are they going to change. I’ve come to tell you, they may never change, it’s not about them changing, it’s about you taking control. It’s about you taking control and creating that change that needs to happen. If you’re waiting for someone to change, it may never happen because they may be perfectly content or even far too lazy to do anything about it. Don’t put things on hold anymore, take control of your life and make things happen.
Your life is up to you.
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Now I’m not talking about the type of change you get from a £20 note, I’m talking about the type of change that when hearing the word change, can fill us with fear. Most of the time it fills us with fear because it means entering the unknown. Often It results in thoughts like, I’m not ready, what if…, and then you talk yourself into the idea that your situation is actually not that bad, when actually it is, you’ve become uncomfortably comfortable with the situation whether it be a relationship, job, physical or maybe mental state. We know it’s not right for us, that it’s not serving us any good but we can be scared to act on it because we don’t know what the unknown holds for us. Fear not, if you look up these two words in the dictionary, they have beautiful meanings:
Change = to transform or convert (usually followed by into)
Unknown = not discovered, explored, identified, or ascertained
‘To Transform’ and ‘not discovered’ bring a whole new feeling to the words change and unknown; it brings positivity and excitement, of which both you could have in your life and I’m sure you deserve. Whether it’s deep down or just under the surface you know what needs to transform, how about this week taking the first step to that new discovery. If replacing a word can make a new situation sound exciting imagine how amazing addressing your situation will feel. Have an amazing transformational week Jx
Yesterday at the gym I noticed whom I call my squat partner, we’ve helped each other out when the other was flagging a few times. I asked how she was doing and she replied, “I’ve got 40 to go but I’m knackered”, I said “ok I’ll join you so we can both blitz it”.
Mid squat she told me her current self was fighting her future self; I liked the sound of this so I asked her what she meant. Her current self was saying “you’ve done enough, you don’t need to do another 40, go home”, however her future self was saying “you know you’re going to feel better for doing the extra 40 and you’re going to be pissed with yourself if you don’t.” I like this.
So instead of having that voice of doubt that pipes up every so often questioning if you have got what it takes to do what you want to do and maybe stopping you from going ahead. How about listening to your future self and hearing “I bet you’re glad you done that”.
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I love Seth Godin and I wanted to share these words from him. I’ve added the link to his blog below too, enjoy.
Who goes first?
Initiating a project, a blog, a wikipedia article, a family journey–these are things that don’t come naturally to many people. The challenge is in initiating something even when you’re not putatively in charge. Not enough people believe they are capable of productive initiative.
At the same time, almost all people believe they are capable of editing, giving feedback or merely criticizing.
So finding people to fix your typos is easy.
I don’t think the shortage of artists has much to do with the innate ability to create or initiate. I think it has to do with believing that it’s possible and acceptable for you to do it. We’ve only had these particular doors open wide for a decade or so, and most people have been brainwashed into believing that their job is to copyedit the world, not to design it.
That used to be your job. It’s not, not anymore. You go first.
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