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It’s all up to you

We can often put things on hold because of someone else, unknown to ourselves we can get tangled up in a web of ‘well if they change things would be better’, ‘I’d do more’, you know the stuff you’ve really been wanting to do for ages, it’s them that holds you back, damn them when are they going to change. I’ve come to tell you, they may never change, it’s not about them changing, it’s about you taking control. It’s about you taking control and creating that change that needs to happen. If you’re waiting for someone to change, it may never happen because they may be perfectly content or even far too lazy to do anything about it. Don’t put things on hold anymore, take control of your life and make things happen.

Your life is up to you.

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YOU Are In Control

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Genius, this has got to be my favorite quote.  The reason being, it shows the power of the mind.

Our daughter was born on Friday the 13th this for me signifies an amazing day.  Apparently walking over a block of 3 drains on the pavement is bad luck, I was so over avoiding them, I decided that it was good luck so now I traipse over them with a smile on my face.

My point being, whatever you see in a situation it will be, if you think it’s shit then I’m pretty sure it will be if you see it as a positive challenge then that’s what it will be.

You are in control of your thoughts, if they are stopping you from doing something in your life that will ultimately benefit you, make you happier then it’s you and only you that can make that decision to face that fear and change it.

How about this week taking a negative thought or fear that you have and turning it on it’s head, go on give it a go and enjoy the feeling of freedom.

J x

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Are you doing what you really want to do?

If you are doing what you really want to do, congratulations keep going.  If not, what is it that is stopping you from taking that first step, is it a limiting belief?

What is a limiting belief?

A limiting belief is a belief that is stopping you from moving forward and achieving your goals.  It can be anything that is stopping you, from “What if my designs don’t sell”,  “I don’t have enough time” to “I’m rubbish at presenting, I can’t pitch”, you get the idea.  Therefore limiting you from moving forward and achieving your goal, your dream.

How do they come about?

As we grow up we’re exposed to peoples opinions.  *Parents, friends, teachers, colleagues, relations they all have an opinion, they love a bit of input don’t they.

“What? You want to make clothes or sing for a living, you must be mad.  You need to find a proper job” or maybe “It’s tough out there now, you shouldn’t be starting your own company” I mean how annoying is that when you’re doing something you love and you’re good at it.

The sad thing is if you hear that regularly over a period of time, insecurity can set in and you can start to doubt yourself.  “Well actually, can I make money, will it work, and maybe I should get a safe, proper job” (whatever one of them is)

Right, let’s turn this around

What limiting beliefs do you have that are holding you back from doing what you really want to do?  Write them down.

Now next to it/them write a list of reasons that makes this belief real for you, why do you believe it, what makes this true for you.

So it might look like this:

Limiting belief = I can’t start my own company

What makes it real for you = Clients might not buy my work

Now let’s turn this around, write down the opposite of what is making it real for you. E.g.

What makes it real for you = Clients might not buy my work

Replace with = Clients are buying my work.  (Make it personal to you “my work is selling out” “Clients are loving and buying my work”)

Repeat this over and over until you feel it make a shift.  Remember you may have had this limiting belief for years, so you might need to repeat this exercise again and again.  Say it slow and give it some oomph; reading it in a flat monotone voice isn’t really going to help you, you need to believe it, feel it.

Feel positive and run with it

I’m not even a designer and saying that ten times in a row gives me a feeling of confidence.  This is because it’s positive, positivity feeds positivity.

Notice how you feel when you read the opposite to what you originally said.  You get that calm air of confidence, you start to think in a much more positive, I can do manner.  You’re putting yourself into a positive mindset.  Remember to focus on what you do want and not, what you don’t want.  This is key.

Now is the time to take that first step towards your dream goal.  Go on!

If you’re nervous or not sure where to start I would love to work with you to bring your goals and dream alive, this is just the tip of the iceberg.  You can mail me at Jane@janedringcoachingcreatives.com or call me for a chat to find out more on +44 (0) 7906 258 633

*I’m aware that not all Parents, friends, teachers, colleagues, relations etc love a bit of input, just some of them!

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