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What Have You Done For You Lately?

Have you ever been so focused on helping someone else or so focused on work that you’ve lost yourself and not even realised, I’m going to go as far as saying maybe you’ve even put your life on hold. Then one day that person is where they’ve been working towards or the next project at work comes along and suddenly, BANG the self-realisation of ‘what the hell have I been doing for me’ kicks in and the answer is, nothing, I’ve done nothing for myself. Spending your energy on someone or on work, it’s an easy thing to do.

It’s easy to fall into bad sleep patterns, eat unhealthy, remove yourself from any form of exercise, it’s almost self sabotage, ‘it’s not about me it’s about them or it’s about work, ‘must do a great job’.  Well actually if you continue you that way, you won’t be any good to yourself, them or work.

So it’s time to put yourself first, you may ask yourself ‘is this ok”, ‘can I do this’, they’re completely natural questions and the answer to both of them is ‘yes it is ok’ and ‘yes you can do it’.

So in the words of Janet Jackson, ask yourself ‘What have you done for me lately?” and if the answer is not much, allow yourself a fresh start by giving yourself some new found self-love and self-respect, believe me, you deserve it.

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Give yourself the gift of doing nothing

Last Saturday I woke up and thought of the jobs that needed doing and in the same thought I decided I wasn’t going to do them that day. I was having a day off and I was going to have a lovely day with my hubby and our beautiful daughter. So that’s exactly what we did and you know what, it was amazing.

The hoover police didn’t come around, the shops didn’t run out of food and my practice didn’t collapse. However what did happen was we had a day that I’m still smiling about a week later.

Enjoy your weekend and do something for you, f*&% doing ‘The Stuff’ that ‘needs’ doing for one day.

xx

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Three days in, how is your Life/Work Balance this week?

Thank you Jack Bishop for the drawing, check him out http://bloodybishop.blogspot.com/

It’s only wednesday, you can still plan quality you time tonight, tomorrow and friday.  Go on, you know you want to!

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Life/Work balance or lack of?

Your current situation

So over the years you’ve gained more responsibility at work or maybe you’ve even started your own company (congratulations).  If so does the following sound familiar, work, work, work, a bit more work and then a few more hours work.  Weekend, knackered, mind still in the office, might as well check a few work emails before Monday just so I’m on top of it.

Oh look it’s Monday already and I’m back in the office and I didn’t do anything for myself any evening last week or all weekend because I was too tired from working.  Anyway I can’t think about that as I’ve got a meeting to run to.  And the cycle continues.

Just writing that paragraph, freaked me out.

Ready for the good news?

You can have that full on job or run your own company, and have quality you time.  If at this point your thinking yeah whatever, she hasn’t got a clue how busy I am you’re totally right; I have no idea how busy you are.  What I do know is no matter how busy you are you can still have quality you time.

How do I do it?

The key to life/work balance is all about commitment & holding yourself accountable.

What do I mean by that.  Well you have to commit 100% to making this change, remember it’s a change for the better. I don’t want to hear the words “I’ll try”.  Never try it only sets you up for failure.  You either do it or you don’t.  Commit to it. Yes, I want more productive me time and I will make it happen, then it is clear in your mind, you can move on to the next step.

The next step is planning what you will do and when you will do it.  It doesn’t have to be something huge, start small and be realistic.  Maybe the gym twice a week or seeing an old friend after work, taking your other half out for dinner instead of slumping in front of the TV.  Once you have decided on your plan, be specific with the day and time you will do it.

Hold yourself accountable, tell someone that cares about you your plans, because they are the ones that will take it seriously.  The people that care about you want to see you living a happy balanced life rather than the one you may have now where you work yourself to exhaustion and are five weeks overdue for a haircut because “you haven’t got time”.  That way, they will keep you in check, when you do your activity you can share the experience with them or if you don’t do it you have to tell them why you didn’t.  I’m thinking there will be none of the latter.

Nobody is going to do this for you, can you visualise your boss saying “it’s six o’clock, go home you’ve been working really hard, for the last five years”.  Take control of your own life, now.

If you care that much about your job, then give yourself a break. You will be more focused and you will deliver better results.  As well as delivering better results you will have a happier more fulfilling, balanced life outside of work too.  It’s a win-win.

So what is the first move you are going to make to have a balanced week, what are you going to do for you this week?

The first person to email, me with their new Life/Work balance plan for this week, will receive a one-hour complimentary coaching session. jane@janedringcoachingcreatives.com

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