There are many superstitions that make me smile. Let’s take the triple drain, if you walk over it, it’s bad luck. Is it not just a large manhole? Or the black cat crossing in front of you, I’d question isn’t it just a cat on it’s way somewhere.
However, over the years I’ve had my beliefs in some (that are totally mental). The other day on my way to work, I passed a royal mail depot and I did something that I haven’t done in years, like 30 years. I crossed my fingers (as in for good luck) and then broke the cross using my other hand; yes you read right, Royal Mail vans. Just for the record, I was not alone doing this 30 years ago, however I was last week.
This instantly bought me back to the age of 9 or 10 when I use to dance and compete. One day driving to a competition along the motorway with my parents, we pass a royal mail depot, oh my god I couldn’t believe my “luck” there were small Royal Mail vans, transit Royal Mail vans, Royal Mail trucks, I was in finger uncrossing heaven. Clearly I was going to do really well at that competition and guess what, I did. I remember so clearly I won 8 medals and 2 trophies. Obviously it was because I passed a Royal Mail depot that morning. Nothing to do with the fact that I had two classes a week and practiced most other nights at home. The point being, a bit of luck is always nice, however it’s the doing that’s the point of difference and what makes things happen.
What are you doing each day towards your goal or goals? If you haven’t done something for a while, after reading this I encourage you to write down 2 things you’re going to do this week towards it, put them into your diary with a time and do it. Trust me, you’ll feel great about it and you’ll be 2 steps closer to allowing your end goal.
Well done in advance
I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.
Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things? So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done. Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.
If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.
Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.
Have a great day
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Have you ever been so focused on helping someone else or so focused on work that you’ve lost yourself and not even realised, I’m going to go as far as saying maybe you’ve even put your life on hold. Then one day that person is where they’ve been working towards or the next project at work comes along and suddenly, BANG the self-realisation of ‘what the hell have I been doing for me’ kicks in and the answer is, nothing, I’ve done nothing for myself. Spending your energy on someone or on work, it’s an easy thing to do.
It’s easy to fall into bad sleep patterns, eat unhealthy, remove yourself from any form of exercise, it’s almost self sabotage, ‘it’s not about me it’s about them or it’s about work, ‘must do a great job’. Well actually if you continue you that way, you won’t be any good to yourself, them or work.
So it’s time to put yourself first, you may ask yourself ‘is this ok”, ‘can I do this’, they’re completely natural questions and the answer to both of them is ‘yes it is ok’ and ‘yes you can do it’.
So in the words of Janet Jackson, ask yourself ‘What have you done for me lately?” and if the answer is not much, allow yourself a fresh start by giving yourself some new found self-love and self-respect, believe me, you deserve it.
We can often put things on hold because of someone else, unknown to ourselves we can get tangled up in a web of ‘well if they change things would be better’, ‘I’d do more’, you know the stuff you’ve really been wanting to do for ages, it’s them that holds you back, damn them when are they going to change. I’ve come to tell you, they may never change, it’s not about them changing, it’s about you taking control. It’s about you taking control and creating that change that needs to happen. If you’re waiting for someone to change, it may never happen because they may be perfectly content or even far too lazy to do anything about it. Don’t put things on hold anymore, take control of your life and make things happen.
Your life is up to you.
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Now I’m not talking about the type of change you get from a £20 note, I’m talking about the type of change that when hearing the word change, can fill us with fear. Most of the time it fills us with fear because it means entering the unknown. Often It results in thoughts like, I’m not ready, what if…, and then you talk yourself into the idea that your situation is actually not that bad, when actually it is, you’ve become uncomfortably comfortable with the situation whether it be a relationship, job, physical or maybe mental state. We know it’s not right for us, that it’s not serving us any good but we can be scared to act on it because we don’t know what the unknown holds for us. Fear not, if you look up these two words in the dictionary, they have beautiful meanings:
Change = to transform or convert (usually followed by into)
Unknown = not discovered, explored, identified, or ascertained
‘To Transform’ and ‘not discovered’ bring a whole new feeling to the words change and unknown; it brings positivity and excitement, of which both you could have in your life and I’m sure you deserve. Whether it’s deep down or just under the surface you know what needs to transform, how about this week taking the first step to that new discovery. If replacing a word can make a new situation sound exciting imagine how amazing addressing your situation will feel. Have an amazing transformational week Jx
Last Saturday I woke up and thought of the jobs that needed doing and in the same thought I decided I wasn’t going to do them that day. I was having a day off and I was going to have a lovely day with my hubby and our beautiful daughter. So that’s exactly what we did and you know what, it was amazing.
The hoover police didn’t come around, the shops didn’t run out of food and my practice didn’t collapse. However what did happen was we had a day that I’m still smiling about a week later.
Enjoy your weekend and do something for you, f*&% doing ‘The Stuff’ that ‘needs’ doing for one day.