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Do YOUR labels define you?

I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.

Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things?  So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done.  Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.

If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.

Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.

Have a great day

Jane

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Focus On What You HAVE Achieved

Recently we’ve become the parents of an amazing baby girl and what I’ve noticed is how we celebrate her achievements.  Now I’m not talking about missy winning her first skate comp (no pressure poppet) or doing her first windmill, she’s four and half months old that would be a bit odd.  What I am talking about is missy doing a great burp, making new sounds or grabbing a toy; these bring us endless hours of proud sighs and happiness, we get proper excited about her day to day achievements.

Now it got me thinking again about us as adults and do we recognise what we have achieved or are we too busy focusing on what else we want to do that we rarely celebrate our day-to-day achievements.

Lets take 2013, have you taken any time to look back and see what you achieved in the past twelve months, if not take a few minutes right now. Maybe you got that job or client you wanted, started your own business, did an amazing shoot, started exercising or ran a marathon.  Maybe you got out of the rut of a relationship you’re in or made the one you’re in even better, if so, nice one!

Often we focus on and are chasing the “bigger” and “better” things and miss out on the smaller things we achieve. Now I’m not saying you need to high five your bestie for breaking wind (I’m also not saying don’t), what I am saying is its important to acknowledge the small things that we achieve day to day rather than beating ourselves up about the things we haven’t done yet.

Why not make 2014 the year that you start giving yourself a break and recognising how much you actually do.  Use your past achievements as a motivator to move forward and achieve more, you’ve proved you can do it, now keep it up.

XJ

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It’s ok not to be ok

 

What’s important is how you handle it and what you do next.

1. Embrace it

Recognise why you are not ok and say it out loud.  A lot of the time it only takes saying something out loud and admitting it to ourselves that is enough to make us take the first step to change the situation.

Go on, look your inner control freak right in the eye and say “I’m not ok” it will just squirm and scuttle away, perplexed. This in turn will leave you feeling refreshingly empowered and free.  Acceptance is a beautiful thing.

2. Ask for help if you need it

Only you will know who or what that help will be.  It could simply be chatting to your best mate about it.  Give yourself permission to ask for help, it’s ok!

3. Recognize what needs to be done to change the situation

We always have control, even if its 1% we can contribute to change a situation, that change can simply be how we deal with it in our heads.  We can choose to say “No I’ve had enough I’m over it” or tackle it head on with an action plan.  Think, what is in my control to change this situation.

4. Begin the change

That first step can sometimes be the hardest so keep focused on how good you’re going to feel once you’ve done it or the relief you will feel.  One step at a time, that’s all it takes.  Starting is the key.

5.  Enjoy!

And congratulate yourself on your new found freedom in whatever situation it may be.

Love

J

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FUCK IT

I received some tickets to an event in London this past weekend.  It was called The Fuck It Weekend and it’s ran by a lovely couple called John and Gaia. It was great, we sat on the floor all weekend whilst chatting, dancing and doing both mind and physical exercise.

I wanted to share one exercise with you that we did that I really liked.  It’s really simple and you can get really fast results from it.

The Exercise:

  • Make a list of what you love to do
  • Make a list of what you don’t like doing
  • Make a list of what you used to love doing
  • Make a list of what you think you’d love to do

Now:

  • Start doing more of what you love
  • Start doing less of what you don’t like
  • Think about why you’re not doing what you use to love doing
  • Start finding out more about what you’d think you’d love to do

Fuck it and do more of what you love!

http://www.thefuckitlife.com/

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A Little You

I was in the park the other day with my mate and her little poppet and I was watching this group of kids on the round about.  There was one girl, no more than six and I was just mesmerized by her lack of fear.  She was flying around this thing, then she started climbing all over it whilst five other kids where pushing it as fast as possible.  She had that concentration tongue, you know when it sticks out she was totally focused and determined.

Then she starts hanging off the edge, head first absolutely loving it, not one bit concerned that her mini Barbour jacket was getting all sorts of crap all over it.  She then jumps off, runs over to the slide, climbs the stairs and runs down the slide really fast.  At this point I’m doing my nervous twitch that I do when I think kids are gonna fall flat on their face and really hurt themselves.  I think she had rubber soles on too, which made it worse as they were occasionally sticking to the slide.

It got me thinking,  for many people when we were young and we were trying new things we had no fear, we just wanted to discover. If you wanted to know about something you’d ask, if you wanted to do something new you’d totally get involved and try it out.  If you had an opinion on something, there was no softening the blow it was just said how you saw it.  It’s how we learn and grow.

As we get older we don’t always ask the questions in fear of looking silly, we don’t always chase our dreams and ambitions incase of failure.  Sometimes we even ignore the most amazing gift ever, our gut feeling, even when it’s bouncing with excitement and adrenalin telling us to go for it and to do what we really want to do, because deep down we know it’s what we’re meant to be doing.  Instead it’s easier to stick with the “safe” and sometimes negative voice that sits on our shoulder and we don’t move forward and achieve what deep down we know we can achieve.

If there’s something that you really want to do, a goal you want to achieve, what would a little you do?

J Xx

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Commit and Make It Happen

You know those daydreams that you have where you’re doing what you really want to do; your mind just runs free.

Those perfect fitting jeans that you designed are in all the best accounts, or you’ve finally opened that teahouse on the coast selling those cakes you’ve been practice baking for ages, maybe you’re doing that shoot you’ve always wanted to do or you see your graphics trotting down the catwalk at London fashion week or your window installation in Liberty’s is beaming proudly as thousands of people walk past everyday.  You know those ones right.

Remember those daydreams again, remember the feeling you have, you’re so in the moment you can feel it, you’re actually doing it.  That feeling is just ace isn’t it.   And that daydream comes and goes, might be a while since you’ve had it or maybe you see it each day, bigger and brighter than ever.

Well I’ve got some brilliant news for you, now you’ve visualised what you want, you’ve already created it, so deep down you know it’s possible and even more important deep down you know you are more than capable.  So, what’s holding you back.

I’m going to do what the *English supposedly don’t do, I’m going to talk about myself in a positive manner, gasp I know, it’s shocking isn’t it.  Me, me, me, erm did I tell you about me!?

For the past eight months I’ve been doing a lot of voluntary work, coaching people whom are unemployed.  We’ve been working on building their confidence, goal setting and working towards gaining employment.  The reason I’ve been doing this is because I believe in it 150%, I love it and there is a massive need for this support to local communities.  From this voluntary work my new business partner Andy Bater and I have set up a CIC (Community Interest Company, a not for profit organisation) www.seejobgroup.com.

We set this up with a lot of love, belief and enthusiasm for what we are doing, oh and £35 to register it.  We are meeting amazing people and building new relationships weekly, it’s been an organic growth and it is growing stronger day by day.

My point is, if you believe in what you want to do, commit to it, move towards it one step at a time and you will make it happen.

Take the first step, feed your passion and the rest will follow

Big love

J

*My parents are Irish so I can get away with it.

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A different approach to New Year Resolutions/Goals

In the past I’d write out my New Year resolutions at the start of every January, I usually commit to them around the 6th, that’s more realistic for me.  If I’ve been out for NYE, I’m not going to be eating a super food lunch of sprouted beans and tofu on the  1st; it’s just not going to happen.

So yesterday after listening and speaking to Neelam Meetcha a very dear friend and fellow coach, I put fingertips to keypad and took a different approach to my New Year resolutions/goals.  I wrote in letter form, I addressed it to my friend Jo dated January 1st 2013 telling her all about what I and people closest to me had achieved in 2012.

I included everything from family member goals, countries B & myself visited, subjects I studied and passed (top marks of course), personal goals achieved, health changes, energy wasting thoughts I banished.  There were all sorts in the letter.  It felt amazing.

Just so I’m clear, I’ll give you an *example (keep it true to you, as you would write)

Hey love

I wanted to drop you a line about 2012 and what an awesome year it was.  

So in Jan we set up the new company, I cannot believe how much I’ve learnt in the past year, I’m absolutely loving it.  Come April B & me travelled the coast of Ireland on motorbikes it was amazing.  After wanting to do it for so long, I finally did it.  What an amazing place.

I also took up yoga and am still going three times a week.  I got my diploma in sports science, absolutely stoked; I’m now working on how I want to use that moving forward.

We also extended the kitchen, its super light and airy and I finally got that table made that I’ve wanted for years, it fits perfectly!  Etc, etc

Because I let my mind loose and wrote in the past tense, it just flowed.  There were so many things in the letter that I wouldn’t have thought of if I just had pen and pad in hand and listed my goals.  It takes you on a journey, you can visualise yourself doing all these things that you really want to happen this year.  I love it.

I mailed my letter to a friend; you can do the same or print it out, pop it in an envelope and put it away until January 1st 2013.  Make sure you put a note in your diary to read it, I bet you’ll be chuffed to bits with what you’ve achieved by January of next year.

I found it really inspiring I hope you do too, and remember as I said on Wednesday, break each goal down in to achieveable, manageable tasks.

Have a great morning/afternoon/evening

Jane

*This is just an example, I don’t want to study sports science.

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