What’s important is how you handle it and what you do next.
1. Embrace it
Recognise why you are not ok and say it out loud. A lot of the time it only takes saying something out loud and admitting it to ourselves that is enough to make us take the first step to change the situation.
Go on, look your inner control freak right in the eye and say “I’m not ok” it will just squirm and scuttle away, perplexed. This in turn will leave you feeling refreshingly empowered and free. Acceptance is a beautiful thing.
2. Ask for help if you need it
Only you will know who or what that help will be. It could simply be chatting to your best mate about it. Give yourself permission to ask for help, it’s ok!
3. Recognize what needs to be done to change the situation
We always have control, even if its 1% we can contribute to change a situation, that change can simply be how we deal with it in our heads. We can choose to say “No I’ve had enough I’m over it” or tackle it head on with an action plan. Think, what is in my control to change this situation.
4. Begin the change
That first step can sometimes be the hardest so keep focused on how good you’re going to feel once you’ve done it or the relief you will feel. One step at a time, that’s all it takes. Starting is the key.
And congratulate yourself on your new found freedom in whatever situation it may be.
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I received some tickets to an event in London this past weekend. It was called The Fuck It Weekend and it’s ran by a lovely couple called John and Gaia. It was great, we sat on the floor all weekend whilst chatting, dancing and doing both mind and physical exercise.
I wanted to share one exercise with you that we did that I really liked. It’s really simple and you can get really fast results from it.
- Make a list of what you love to do
- Make a list of what you don’t like doing
- Make a list of what you used to love doing
- Make a list of what you think you’d love to do
- Start doing more of what you love
- Start doing less of what you don’t like
- Think about why you’re not doing what you use to love doing
- Start finding out more about what you’d think you’d love to do
Fuck it and do more of what you love!
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If you’ve had something on your To Do List for one week or more, DELETE IT off your list, go on do it. You will feel a lot better about it not being there every morning when you look at it and it will save you the time of shifting it to the next day, then the next day, then the next day in your diary whilst also feeling rubbish that you still haven’t done it.
I mean, if it is that important to you, you would have done it already right?
So if this little note has made you think s^*$ I really do need to do that, think about why it is you’re putting it off. Then break the task down into small achievable goals with a date and a time to complete them, starting with the biggest and most challenging first.
If you need help, ask the right person, if you need more time, get up early tomorrow. Whatever works for you than commit to it and do it.
And just keep remembering how good you’re gonna feel when you’ve done it and it’s off your To Do List for good.
Happy spring cleaning!
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