I’m not talking about whether it’s Topshop or Balmain I’m talking about the labels you give yourself, I’m a procrastinator, I’m unorganized, I’m not confident.
Ask yourself this, are you’re self labels allowing you to get away with things? So “I haven’t done that job on my to do list” and although it doesn’t feel great, but you know what “I’m a procrastinator” so that’s why I didn’t get it done. Stop letting yourself of the hook, you’re doing yourself no favours and you will continue in the same cycle.
If you are going to label yourself, start now today by saying the opposite, so for example replace procrastinator with “I am proactive” say it over and over again, and keep telling yourself that. Repetition is key even if you feel resistance push through it, you will soon feel the change internally; it will shift your perspective to a proactive approach.
Self-talk is powerful beyond belief; feed yourself something positive, that will nurture you and move your forward not let you off the hook.
Have a great day
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As I was driving home from an appointment today, this was played on Radio 2. I liked it a lot and wanted to share it, take 5 minutes and 4 seconds in your day to have a listen, you deserve it
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I love Seth Godin and I wanted to share these words from him. I’ve added the link to his blog below too, enjoy.
Who goes first?
Initiating a project, a blog, a wikipedia article, a family journey–these are things that don’t come naturally to many people. The challenge is in initiating something even when you’re not putatively in charge. Not enough people believe they are capable of productive initiative.
At the same time, almost all people believe they are capable of editing, giving feedback or merely criticizing.
So finding people to fix your typos is easy.
I don’t think the shortage of artists has much to do with the innate ability to create or initiate. I think it has to do with believing that it’s possible and acceptable for you to do it. We’ve only had these particular doors open wide for a decade or so, and most people have been brainwashed into believing that their job is to copyedit the world, not to design it.
That used to be your job. It’s not, not anymore. You go first.
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I received some tickets to an event in London this past weekend. It was called The Fuck It Weekend and it’s ran by a lovely couple called John and Gaia. It was great, we sat on the floor all weekend whilst chatting, dancing and doing both mind and physical exercise.
I wanted to share one exercise with you that we did that I really liked. It’s really simple and you can get really fast results from it.
- Make a list of what you love to do
- Make a list of what you don’t like doing
- Make a list of what you used to love doing
- Make a list of what you think you’d love to do
- Start doing more of what you love
- Start doing less of what you don’t like
- Think about why you’re not doing what you use to love doing
- Start finding out more about what you’d think you’d love to do
Fuck it and do more of what you love!
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Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation. There is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen events, meetings and material assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come their way.
I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now!”
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I was in the park the other day with my mate and her little poppet and I was watching this group of kids on the round about. There was one girl, no more than six and I was just mesmerized by her lack of fear. She was flying around this thing, then she started climbing all over it whilst five other kids where pushing it as fast as possible. She had that concentration tongue, you know when it sticks out she was totally focused and determined.
Then she starts hanging off the edge, head first absolutely loving it, not one bit concerned that her mini Barbour jacket was getting all sorts of crap all over it. She then jumps off, runs over to the slide, climbs the stairs and runs down the slide really fast. At this point I’m doing my nervous twitch that I do when I think kids are gonna fall flat on their face and really hurt themselves. I think she had rubber soles on too, which made it worse as they were occasionally sticking to the slide.
It got me thinking, for many people when we were young and we were trying new things we had no fear, we just wanted to discover. If you wanted to know about something you’d ask, if you wanted to do something new you’d totally get involved and try it out. If you had an opinion on something, there was no softening the blow it was just said how you saw it. It’s how we learn and grow.
As we get older we don’t always ask the questions in fear of looking silly, we don’t always chase our dreams and ambitions incase of failure. Sometimes we even ignore the most amazing gift ever, our gut feeling, even when it’s bouncing with excitement and adrenalin telling us to go for it and to do what we really want to do, because deep down we know it’s what we’re meant to be doing. Instead it’s easier to stick with the “safe” and sometimes negative voice that sits on our shoulder and we don’t move forward and achieve what deep down we know we can achieve.
If there’s something that you really want to do, a goal you want to achieve, what would a little you do?
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If you’ve had something on your To Do List for one week or more, DELETE IT off your list, go on do it. You will feel a lot better about it not being there every morning when you look at it and it will save you the time of shifting it to the next day, then the next day, then the next day in your diary whilst also feeling rubbish that you still haven’t done it.
I mean, if it is that important to you, you would have done it already right?
So if this little note has made you think s^*$ I really do need to do that, think about why it is you’re putting it off. Then break the task down into small achievable goals with a date and a time to complete them, starting with the biggest and most challenging first.
If you need help, ask the right person, if you need more time, get up early tomorrow. Whatever works for you than commit to it and do it.
And just keep remembering how good you’re gonna feel when you’ve done it and it’s off your To Do List for good.
Happy spring cleaning!
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