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Current Self, Future Self

Yesterday at the gym I noticed whom I call my squat partner, we’ve helped each other out when the other was flagging a few times. I asked how she was doing and she replied, “I’ve got 40 to go but I’m knackered”, I said “ok I’ll join you so we can both blitz it”.

Mid squat she told me her current self was fighting her future self; I liked the sound of this so I asked her what she meant. Her current self was saying “you’ve done enough, you don’t need to do another 40, go home”, however her future self was saying “you know you’re going to feel better for doing the extra 40 and you’re going to be pissed with yourself if you don’t.” I like this.

So instead of having that voice of doubt that pipes up every so often questioning if you have got what it takes to do what you want to do and maybe stopping you from going ahead. How about listening to your future self and hearing “I bet you’re glad you done that”.

Happy Sunday

J

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Are You Going To Go First?

I love Seth Godin and I wanted to share these words from him.  I’ve added the link to his blog  below too, enjoy.

Who goes first?

Initiating a project, a blog, a wikipedia article, a family journey–these are things that don’t come naturally to many people. The challenge is in initiating something even when you’re not putatively in charge. Not enough people believe they are capable of productive initiative.

At the same time, almost all people believe they are capable of editing, giving feedback or merely criticizing.

So finding people to fix your typos is easy.

I don’t think the shortage of artists has much to do with the innate ability to create or initiate. I think it has to do with believing that it’s possible and acceptable for you to do it. We’ve only had these particular doors open wide for a decade or so, and most people have been brainwashed into believing that their job is to copyedit the world, not to design it.

That used to be your job. It’s not, not anymore. You go first.

Seth Godin

 

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2013/01/most-people-dont-believe-they-are-capable-of-initiative.html

 

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/

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FUCK IT

I received some tickets to an event in London this past weekend.  It was called The Fuck It Weekend and it’s ran by a lovely couple called John and Gaia. It was great, we sat on the floor all weekend whilst chatting, dancing and doing both mind and physical exercise.

I wanted to share one exercise with you that we did that I really liked.  It’s really simple and you can get really fast results from it.

The Exercise:

  • Make a list of what you love to do
  • Make a list of what you don’t like doing
  • Make a list of what you used to love doing
  • Make a list of what you think you’d love to do

Now:

  • Start doing more of what you love
  • Start doing less of what you don’t like
  • Think about why you’re not doing what you use to love doing
  • Start finding out more about what you’d think you’d love to do

Fuck it and do more of what you love!

http://www.thefuckitlife.com/

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How Do You React To Life?

Every Sunday I go and visit an old lady up the road from me, just for an hour, her name is Bernadine and she is 87.

When I went last Sunday she was really down, upon my arrival her words were “I just want to die”, nice greeting I thought. And so we sat there for a good 20 minutes and I listened to how much she wanted to die, she really wanted to die on Sunday, it’s because she can’t do everything that she used to be able to do.

I asked her if she wanted a dance, that’s what we do most Sundays is have a little waltz around her living room, she loves dancing, it always puts a massive smile on her face.  She declined my offer; if she didn’t want to dance I knew she was feeling pretty rubbish, she’s never not wanted to dance.

So I just listened some more as she then talked about how she was scared because she didn’t know what would happen to her when she does die, even though she really wanted to die, bless her she was just all round upset on Sunday.  I said I’m sure you’ll be fine; you can hang out with your mates and your three husbands that unfortunately she lost over time when she was younger in life.

She was still upset, I said, “maybe you’ll come back as a cat”, she said, “I don’t really like cats”, I said, “The Queen, you’ll come back as the next Queen” Bernadine loves The Queen.

She looked up at me and said “wouldn’t that be lovely” then with a big smile on her face she said  “Shall we have a little dance”, so we did, around her living room as we do, most Sundays.

“Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it”.  Charles Swindoll

 

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Spring Clean Your To Do List

If you’ve had something on your To Do List for one week or more, DELETE IT off your list, go on do it.  You will feel a lot better about it not being there every morning when you look at it and it will save you the time of shifting it to the next day, then the next day, then the next day in your diary whilst also feeling rubbish that you still haven’t done it.

I mean, if it is that important to you, you would have done it already right?

So if this little note has made you think s^*$ I really do need to do that, think about why it is you’re putting it off.  Then break the task down into small achievable goals with a date and a time to complete them, starting with the biggest and most challenging first.

If you need help, ask the right person, if you need more time, get up early tomorrow.  Whatever works for you than commit to it and do it.

And just keep remembering how good you’re gonna feel when you’ve done it and it’s off your To Do List for good.

Happy spring cleaning!

J x

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Commit and Make It Happen

You know those daydreams that you have where you’re doing what you really want to do; your mind just runs free.

Those perfect fitting jeans that you designed are in all the best accounts, or you’ve finally opened that teahouse on the coast selling those cakes you’ve been practice baking for ages, maybe you’re doing that shoot you’ve always wanted to do or you see your graphics trotting down the catwalk at London fashion week or your window installation in Liberty’s is beaming proudly as thousands of people walk past everyday.  You know those ones right.

Remember those daydreams again, remember the feeling you have, you’re so in the moment you can feel it, you’re actually doing it.  That feeling is just ace isn’t it.   And that daydream comes and goes, might be a while since you’ve had it or maybe you see it each day, bigger and brighter than ever.

Well I’ve got some brilliant news for you, now you’ve visualised what you want, you’ve already created it, so deep down you know it’s possible and even more important deep down you know you are more than capable.  So, what’s holding you back.

I’m going to do what the *English supposedly don’t do, I’m going to talk about myself in a positive manner, gasp I know, it’s shocking isn’t it.  Me, me, me, erm did I tell you about me!?

For the past eight months I’ve been doing a lot of voluntary work, coaching people whom are unemployed.  We’ve been working on building their confidence, goal setting and working towards gaining employment.  The reason I’ve been doing this is because I believe in it 150%, I love it and there is a massive need for this support to local communities.  From this voluntary work my new business partner Andy Bater and I have set up a CIC (Community Interest Company, a not for profit organisation) www.seejobgroup.com.

We set this up with a lot of love, belief and enthusiasm for what we are doing, oh and £35 to register it.  We are meeting amazing people and building new relationships weekly, it’s been an organic growth and it is growing stronger day by day.

My point is, if you believe in what you want to do, commit to it, move towards it one step at a time and you will make it happen.

Take the first step, feed your passion and the rest will follow

Big love

J

*My parents are Irish so I can get away with it.

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What will you do with your extra 24 hours?

I haven’t got the time; the days go so quick, where does the time go.  Sound familiar, well tomorrow you’ve got an extra day, yes a whole extra 24 hours to make the time.

It only comes once every four years and remember, time can never be taken back so do use it wisely.

Take that first step to trigger that change in your life that you’ve been talking about, for what seems like forever.

Happy leap year

x

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