Your current situation
So over the years you’ve gained more responsibility at work or maybe you’ve even started your own company (congratulations). If so does the following sound familiar, work, work, work, a bit more work and then a few more hours work. Weekend, knackered, mind still in the office, might as well check a few work emails before Monday just so I’m on top of it.
Oh look it’s Monday already and I’m back in the office and I didn’t do anything for myself any evening last week or all weekend because I was too tired from working. Anyway I can’t think about that as I’ve got a meeting to run to. And the cycle continues.
Just writing that paragraph, freaked me out.
Ready for the good news?
You can have that full on job or run your own company, and have quality you time. If at this point your thinking yeah whatever, she hasn’t got a clue how busy I am you’re totally right; I have no idea how busy you are. What I do know is no matter how busy you are you can still have quality you time.
How do I do it?
The key to life/work balance is all about commitment & holding yourself accountable.
What do I mean by that. Well you have to commit 100% to making this change, remember it’s a change for the better. I don’t want to hear the words “I’ll try”. Never try it only sets you up for failure. You either do it or you don’t. Commit to it. Yes, I want more productive me time and I will make it happen, then it is clear in your mind, you can move on to the next step.
The next step is planning what you will do and when you will do it. It doesn’t have to be something huge, start small and be realistic. Maybe the gym twice a week or seeing an old friend after work, taking your other half out for dinner instead of slumping in front of the TV. Once you have decided on your plan, be specific with the day and time you will do it.
Hold yourself accountable, tell someone that cares about you your plans, because they are the ones that will take it seriously. The people that care about you want to see you living a happy balanced life rather than the one you may have now where you work yourself to exhaustion and are five weeks overdue for a haircut because “you haven’t got time”. That way, they will keep you in check, when you do your activity you can share the experience with them or if you don’t do it you have to tell them why you didn’t. I’m thinking there will be none of the latter.
Nobody is going to do this for you, can you visualise your boss saying “it’s six o’clock, go home you’ve been working really hard, for the last five years”. Take control of your own life, now.
If you care that much about your job, then give yourself a break. You will be more focused and you will deliver better results. As well as delivering better results you will have a happier more fulfilling, balanced life outside of work too. It’s a win-win.
So what is the first move you are going to make to have a balanced week, what are you going to do for you this week?
The first person to email, me with their new Life/Work balance plan for this week, will receive a one-hour complimentary coaching session. firstname.lastname@example.org